up close & personal

Yes, I’ll admit it. I’ve thought about it, agreed to it when others have said it and probably verbally expressed these comments myself more than once in my life. "Good men are so hard to find these days… I want a man not a boy…"

We can all admit that it’s more than likely that everyone holds specific standards when it comes to choosing a partner. I personally believe that it’s a good thing because knowing what you want is always good and we should never settle for less- unless you’re looking for a booty call! But still in those circumstances, I think that one would still hold expectations when making a booty call, right? But anyways… haha. Although holding standards are good, only expecting for your 'ideal' partner… not so much. Yes, it would be great to find a man who knows how to treats us right and knock us off our feet without teaching them- and they do exist, but just to remind you ladies… they weren't all born knowing how to be a gentleman. They had to have learned it from somewhere, right? Furthermore, you were once a little girl who knew nothing about relationships or how to treat or act around a guy too. It was through experience and learning from other past relationships that we have gained knowledge and understanding as to how to be a better girlfriend. We too weren't born to be great girlfriends. Reality check! Boys have to go through the same thing too in order to become better boyfriends or in other words, from a boy to a man.

On the contrary, I also know that there are people who just won’t change even if you try to teach them. But nevertheless, I believe that everyone, either a guy or a girl, has the potential to be the best that they can; it just takes the right person to want to make them change, along with time and patience. Don’t give up when you don’t see results instantly because learning takes time. What matters the most is when you see that your partner is trying. That alone already proves that they care about your feelings other than their own, and that I know, isn’t a characteristic of a boy.

Love is about teaching and learning, compromising and adjusting, its about agreeing to disagree. Love is not about just him or her, me or you, Love is about ‘we.’ Love is not about just loving their perfections but also accepting their imperfections because lets face it, no one is perfect. Love is about growth and working together to becoming each other's 'ideal' partner, its rare to find a match made in heaven instantly.

From then til now, you’ve grown from a jerk (from the first time I met you) to someone who I honestly thought would be too hard headed to be, a pretty damn good, selfless boyfriend. Haha. Your efforts, your words, your actions have started to add up together nicely- just like you said it would. I must admit, there were times when I felt like things weren’t going anywhere but you never let me give up us. Know that the positive changes you’ve made so far and the ones you are trying to make are noted. I know i’m not a perfect girlfriend but I hope that you can see my efforts of trying to be that girlfriend for you. Thank you for making my feelings matter to you. Thank you for loving me the way you do.
758 no more no less.